​​​​Friday 30/10/2015

​I kicked off the week thinking about the glorious game of football. This was unusual for me as I've not followed a team since turning my back on Leeds United. I had a brief fling with football when Leeds were top of division one (showing my age!) and it was merely in an effort to keep up with my three brothers.​ I could never have named a player or listed any fan facts. I admit I was a glory  girl.

​My husband is definitely not a glory boy. He has been a Spurs supporter since about 1978 when he started hanging around with a new friend who had moved up from London, infusing a passion for Tottenham into the friendship. He often states 'it's a painful affair'. Spurs did give him a memorable high point in 2008 when they won the Football League Cup when we were at a low point in my treatment. It was great how the glorious game made him forget his troubles, even for a short while, enough to sing and celebrate in the pub.

Beautiful stage curtain with Indian/English/Wedding/Football themes

I loved the fact that the audience was cross racial and cross generational mix. Airing the central message of 'Dream or Duty' to this mixed audience helps show how families negotiate the difficult issues of pleasing others or following your own path. It highlights the difficulties of parenting and also letting go when they become adults, which are universal phenomenas. The tensions between teenagers and their parents  is not specific to any culture as there are always generational issues. It was heart warming that the girls get to live their dream and that the parents are taught to be more open mined. 

My husband and I followed our dream. It was a difficult decision for my husband as an older son and role model to his younger brother and cousins. We realised the tensions  that it created within the Punjabi community but fortunately like 'Jess'  we had support from both our families. It has been an interesting journey but the important lesson we have tried to carry through to our parenting is to give our children confidence, develop the things they enjoy and support their dreams. We have not bred a footballer and each of our children has a different goal as they are all so very different.


Fun Fact; Spurs football ​club was founded in 1881-1882

Half-term  was a great opportunity for the cousins to catch up and what better way to do it than a special theatre trip?  We settled on booking tickets to Bend It Like Beckham and put the date in the diary. It has something for everyone centred on a football storyline. Also as an English girl who infiltrated a Punjabi community 21 years ago and is now bringing up 4 children with dual heritages Bend It Like Beckham seemed like the perfect choice; a fun but poignant mix of themes close to my heart.


In 1894 Nettie Honeyball helped to pioneer women's football in England. She placed an advert, persuaded about 30 young women to join the British Ladies Football Club. She  persuaded J. W. Julian, who played for Tottenham Hotspur, to coach the women.